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Just Be Yourself: The Meaningless Advice No One Needed to Hear


It's one of the most common pieces of advice given to people, especially young people, when they're struggling with their identity or feeling lost. "Just be yourself," they say. "Don't try to be someone you're not."

But what does that even mean? What if you don't like who you are? What if you feel like you're not good enough, or that you don't fit in? Telling someone to "just be yourself" is like telling someone to "just be happy." It's not helpful, and it can actually make people feel worse.

I remember when I was in high school, I was really struggling with my identity. I didn't know who I was or what I wanted to do with my life. I felt like I was constantly trying to fit in, and I was always comparing myself to other people.

One day, my guidance counselor told me to "just be myself." She said that I was a great person, and that I should just focus on being happy with who I am.

At the time, I didn't really know what she meant. I didn't know who I was, so how could I be myself? And even if I did know, I didn't know if I liked who I was.

It took me a long time to figure out what it means to "just be yourself." But eventually, I realized that it doesn't mean being perfect or being someone you're not. It just means accepting yourself for who you are, and loving yourself unconditionally.

It's not always easy to be yourself. There will be times when you feel like you don't fit in, or that you're not good enough. But it's important to remember that you are unique and special, and that there is no one else like you in the world.

So if you're struggling with your identity or feeling lost, don't be afraid to be yourself. Embrace your uniqueness, and love yourself for who you are.
Here are a few tips for being yourself:
  • Spend time getting to know yourself. What are your interests? What are your values? What makes you happy?
  • Don't be afraid to be unique. Everyone is different, and that's what makes the world a beautiful place.
  • Don't compare yourself to others. Everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses. Focus on your own journey.
  • Be kind to yourself. Forgive yourself for your mistakes, and celebrate your successes.
  • Surround yourself with positive people. People who support you and make you feel good about yourself will help you to be the best version of yourself.

Being yourself is not always easy, but it's worth it. When you're true to yourself, you'll be happier, more confident, and more successful. So don't be afraid to be yourself. The world needs you.